The issue is that women who want "light choking" during sex or other such edgy moves don't actually want to be choked. If you as a guy were having sex with a girl and started choking her for real she would likely end up very traumatized and you'd get arrested.
Thus I argue that the choking is actually a subversion of male aggression, taki…
The issue is that women who want "light choking" during sex or other such edgy moves don't actually want to be choked. If you as a guy were having sex with a girl and started choking her for real she would likely end up very traumatized and you'd get arrested.
Thus I argue that the choking is actually a subversion of male aggression, taking a violent outburst and replicating it as a controlled performance. And it's both performed and controlled for the benefit of the woman, who supposedly wants it. By having a man play act a violent act one demonstrates that he is domesticated; able to restrain impulse. I totally feel like zizek when I write stuff like this lmao
I don't know. I had quite a few ask me for it and I never actually acceded because I was always hearing how dangerous it was. I tend to be on the risk-averse side. But hearing about autoerotic asphyxiation...yeah, maybe there is something about the increased CO2 levels in the brain or something. Still not something to play with IMHO. Messing with both the air and blood supply to the brain...eh. I'll drive 100 on the freeway if I want to live on the edge.
For the record they don't want you to actually choke them, as in cut off blood flow or anything. They just want you to put your hand around their neck and vaguely squeeze in a way that resembles choking. No actual restrictions of anything should happen. If you're with a girl who wants actual choking then you know you found a crazy one and should probably run away.
The issue is that women who want "light choking" during sex or other such edgy moves don't actually want to be choked. If you as a guy were having sex with a girl and started choking her for real she would likely end up very traumatized and you'd get arrested.
Thus I argue that the choking is actually a subversion of male aggression, taking a violent outburst and replicating it as a controlled performance. And it's both performed and controlled for the benefit of the woman, who supposedly wants it. By having a man play act a violent act one demonstrates that he is domesticated; able to restrain impulse. I totally feel like zizek when I write stuff like this lmao
I don't know. I had quite a few ask me for it and I never actually acceded because I was always hearing how dangerous it was. I tend to be on the risk-averse side. But hearing about autoerotic asphyxiation...yeah, maybe there is something about the increased CO2 levels in the brain or something. Still not something to play with IMHO. Messing with both the air and blood supply to the brain...eh. I'll drive 100 on the freeway if I want to live on the edge.
For the record they don't want you to actually choke them, as in cut off blood flow or anything. They just want you to put your hand around their neck and vaguely squeeze in a way that resembles choking. No actual restrictions of anything should happen. If you're with a girl who wants actual choking then you know you found a crazy one and should probably run away.