I agree with you actually. And I'm more of a satisficer myself, though I seem to have become more of an optimizer with age...which I don't think is necessarily a good thing and is probably just because I have way more resources now to carry out my optimizing. But you're right, every time in the past that I wanted to cheat or broke up wit…
I agree with you actually. And I'm more of a satisficer myself, though I seem to have become more of an optimizer with age...which I don't think is necessarily a good thing and is probably just because I have way more resources now to carry out my optimizing. But you're right, every time in the past that I wanted to cheat or broke up with someone for someone else, it was just for the novelty/excitement factor and not bc the other person was better, and in fact they were usually obviously worse. But that's part of why I'm saying that getting too comfortable/secure is a bad thing, because it makes the desirability of novelty just some some excitement much more alluring.
So I guess I agree that people don't usually cheat/leave for someone better, though I still think it's probably a good thing to assume it could happen, and to maintain at least *a little* fear of wanting that not to happen. Just to keep you from too much complacency and bc it's a bad incentive to have total security and an assumption of unconditional love, as Regan wrote.
I agree with you actually. And I'm more of a satisficer myself, though I seem to have become more of an optimizer with age...which I don't think is necessarily a good thing and is probably just because I have way more resources now to carry out my optimizing. But you're right, every time in the past that I wanted to cheat or broke up with someone for someone else, it was just for the novelty/excitement factor and not bc the other person was better, and in fact they were usually obviously worse. But that's part of why I'm saying that getting too comfortable/secure is a bad thing, because it makes the desirability of novelty just some some excitement much more alluring.
So I guess I agree that people don't usually cheat/leave for someone better, though I still think it's probably a good thing to assume it could happen, and to maintain at least *a little* fear of wanting that not to happen. Just to keep you from too much complacency and bc it's a bad incentive to have total security and an assumption of unconditional love, as Regan wrote.