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Noah Mullins's avatar

Honestly think it all comes down to the heightened ability to quantify and measure potential partners and the dating pool at the expense of the actual emotion you feel meeting someone in person that's the source of so many problems right now.

Couples that normally would have formed because the two of them hit it off when they met at a party or at work swiping left on each other because of something unimportant, but easily measured through a dating app.

We've taken the emotion out of finding a partner and are shocked to find it's not working and no one is happy chasing a partner who we think of as a checklist of traits and flags.

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Jamie Vu's avatar

Alex Datepsych (who I assume you've come across if you're familiar with Nuance Enjoyer) did a video a few months back about perceived "Chad Harems" monopolizing available young women. Unsurprisingly, he came to the same conclusion.

The vitriol and frustration coming from incel/incel-adjacent communities seems to stem in large part from these men buying into a lifestyle that is being sold to them. As though someone like Dan Bilzerian is actually surrounded by droves of adoring young women throwing themselves at his feet, and not simply paying models to do Instagram posts with him so he can sell you his How to be a Sigma Male PDF or whatever.

Influencers like Bilzerian, Andrew Tate, and other charlatans intentionally riling up their young audiences obviously reflects poorly on them, but I don't know how you convince these people who are obviously motivated by pre-existing grievance.

No different from Twitter trads who think that Coca Cola ads from the 40s are faithful representations of the era.

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