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Ok hilariously I'm a natural family planning instructor with my wife, so we've worked with a variety of couples using NFP for varied reasons. We've used NFP for a decade now both to conceive and avoid. My observations:

-Estrogen surges that increase libido build up and are not just on top of ovulation. As a guy, having your partner wanting you + pheromones is pretty great even if you are avoiding intercourse.

-The rhythm of abstaining then using adds flavor to the relationship. Counterintuitively, using days lower libido days creates intentional intimacy which may not happen otherwise. Generally by the time we're back to a abstaining, we're ready for a break.

-Fertility can be very delicate and varies considerably couple to couple. For some women, return to fertility after hormonal birth control is a longer then expected process. Our experience is that cycle charting can identify some issues.

Meaningful sex is better and nothing is quite as meaningful as intentionally creating a new little human. If you know you're ovulating and it's like 20% happening this go, it's super meaningful. This isn't a fetish, this is sex fully aligned with it's function/meaning: the women is saying I'm willing to have your kid and the man is saying I'm committed to support you through doing that. (That may fall apart later, in the moment there is that alignment). I this is an aristatilian definition of good sex.

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Amod Sandhya Lele's avatar

She's sounding a lot like Robert George, the conservative Catholic philosopher. From his chapter on what sex can be, I mainly inferred that he has an intense breeding kink and wants to convince everyone else to have one too.

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