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Ruxandra Teslo's avatar

nice analysis. I'd agree these dynamics are at play, but tbf I think women initiating divorces is a bit of a messy statistic. In my experience, men are simply more likely to be able to compartimentalise and just ignore a bad relationship and do nothing about it. I also wonder if the relationships themselves are worse or if the marginal woman who earns more feels more independent and likely to make it on her own than one with less money (controlling for relationship quality). A lot of lower income women stay in marriages because they *need* their husbands, but there is not a lot of love.

That being said, I think it is important to highlight that women are responsible for their fair share of relationship breakdowns and understand where male anxiety about this comes from

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gayathri's avatar

now im wondering whether women/men really want men to be higher status...is it more about what that symbolizes (ambition, competence, etc.) and not what it actually can provide in reality (money, resources) - and for women, symbolizing nurturing/care over career. do you think high status doesn't matter and it's really about signaling?

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